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Being Open to Self-Love Strengthens Your Intuition

Self–love is a popular buzz word we’ve all heard. Some buzz words are trendy, and many become meaningless. But self-love should be something that is here to stay – every single day – for each and every one of us. Why? Because it is vital to your basic happiness and its benefits are plentiful. One of the major payoffs of consciously focusing on loving yourself is that it expands your intuitive abilities.

When we love ourselves, the feeling flows through our cells, systems and organs on a consistent basis. Living our lives at this level makes us more aware when anyone or anything crosses our path that throws us out of sync. Our gut responds and, when we love ourselves, we sense that response and pay attention to it.

Contrary to popular belief, deeply loving yourself does not mean you are conceited or selfish. Rather, it is a reflection of learning to accept your pluses and minuses while still loving yourself.

All too often we make decisions based on our need to be loved. When you go out into the world with your self-love battery fully charged, you realize that there is nothing that can happen to you in life that will shake your inner sense of who you are.

The term self-love was created by renowned psychologist Erich Fromm. The intensity of love we feel for ourselves is heavily influenced by the level of our self-worth, self confidence, self-respect and self-esteem. The more deeply we feel rooted in our own love for ourselves and self-worth, the greater our ability to know what’s best for us and what’s wrong for us.

People who believe that they are valuable and worthy of love tend to make wiser decisions. If we really think about it, a good life is a series of wise decisions. The more intuitively aware we are, the stronger our ability to make life choices that will pay off in creating a bright future.

It’s easy to get sidetracked and spend time focused on not having the perfect body or enough money in our bank account or other ways we think we fall short. But when you take a moment to think about it, regardless of what is going on in the world or in your life, loving you is your most important defense to whatever happens.

Taking a couple of minutes to reflect on your own inner beauty each day (or throughout the day) is the way to open the doorway to your intuition (and boost your body’s immune system). Start the day by taking a few minutes to consciously tune into your body and silently tell all your cells, systems and organs, “I love you.” If this is new to you, you may be fighting all kinds of negative self-talk, your upbringing and/or social conditioning as you attempt to do it. Do it anyway.

“I must undertake to love myself and to respect myself as though my very life depends upon self-love and self-respect.” – Maya Angelou

 

Intuitive Strategist Sheree Franklin works with individuals and corporations. She is a career columnist with Black Enterprise and the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use. To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is also a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as corporate speaking events, workshops and facilitation.  For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com.

 


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Self-Care Tips for HR Professionals in the Wake of Increased Violence that Spills into the Workplace

In the wake of the horrific violence in Charlottesville, Virginia, human resource professionals are likely to face increased challenges related to rising tensions and fears.  The workplace is not only a window to what’s going on in the world, but what happens in the world spills over into the workplace. Employees may be more opinionated and anxious about what could happen next as racial conflicts are no longer simmering underneath the surface. Strong feelings and emotions often lead to people being on edge and expressing their beliefs without any of their normal restraint.

As a result, dealing with increased employee clashes and challenges will become the norm for many HR departments. Now, more than ever, it is vitally important for anyone dealing with these employee challenges to take better care of their own health so they do not end up absorbing the stress of those they interact with each day.

Here are six tips to help HR managers and executives tap into their intuition and take better care of themselves through the emotional turmoil:

  1. Pay attention to your intuition, especially related to employees your gut tells you could be potential firecrackers. Human resource professionals typically know, on some level, the people who are difficult to deal with and the most likely to explode or express themselves in an explosive manner. Rather than waiting for something to happen, it’s important to listen to your gut about this (even if it tells you that one of the less likely employees may be a potential issue). Seek those individuals out and let them know that your door is open if they need to talk.  Taking this preemptive step could stop potential conflicts from developing with others.
  2. Don’t try to change people’s minds, attitudes or beliefs.  Everyone has the right to free will and their own viewpoints. If they’re going to change, they must decide that they want to change.
  3. Watch out for collateral damage.  People who feel the pressure of racism, gender bias and any other forms of discrimination are likely to speak up now more than ever. Guide them as much as possible, but remember: you are not responsible for what is going on in the world.
  4. Stay aware of who and what pushes your buttons.  It’s easy to absorb the energy, fear and anger of others, and it is extremely important to notice what triggers you. Staying centered allows for you to notice when you need to step back and to take a break.
  5. Intellectually distance yourself by focusing on the differences between you and stressful people.  Appreciate yourself for being able to stay calm and your ability to not get pulled into every issue.
  6. Adjust yourself to being empathetic and not sympathetic.  Empathy gives you the balance to be able to objectively view a situation without taking on the emotional load of sympathy. When you operate in sympathy, it is easy to start to identify with what is going on and to carry around the belief that you should have known about potential conflict before it developed.

Intuitive Strategist Sheree Franklin works with individuals and corporations. She is a career columnist with Black Enterprise and the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use. To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is also a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as corporate speaking events, workshops and facilitation.  For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com.

 


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Google Firing Means HR & Board Must Take Action To Change The Energy

Ex-Google engineer, James Damore’s, Gender Memo did not surprise me — attitudes like his are not uncommon in those who have not grown up or interacted with those of diverse backgrounds. I don’t agree with his points, but I also don’t agree with his firing. Rather than blast Damore’s memo, this is a great opportunity for Google’s HR and Board to open the door for meaningful dialogue and to develop measurable strategies to promote women and minorities.

No matter our age, race or gender, we are all unconsciously biased.  This causes us to send out unintended messages regarding race, diversity and gender. I disagreed with Damore being fired because doing so seems like an invisible message to cover up and pretend like gender differences and conservative viewpoints are not thriving and even picking up steam in many corporate environments. At a minimum, Damore should have been placed on an improvement plan that included Unconscious Bias training for at least 10-12 weeks.

What’s done is done, but there should be time spent now looking at how a similar situation in the future could be handled better. Even more important, steps should be taken to deal with the issues at hand before something like this happens again. People with good character must rise to the top and say what should not be tolerated. In addition, all of Damore’s past reviews of diverse employees should be reviewed and discussed with the people involved. The HR plan should include all minorities and women in Google to be formally connected with mentors to develop the leadership skills to speak up when they feel they are not being promoted and/or treated fairly.

Unfortunately, at Google, like most other corporations, mentors are not typically diverse, reflecting the organization’s lack of diversity. Google’s workforce, for example, consists of 70% men, as is 75% of its leadership, according to 2017 company statistics.

In order to change the energy at Google, the Board of Directors must also reflect diversity.  When a problem comes up, a company’s leaders have the opportunity to turn it into victory.  Attitudes like Darmore’s usually start at the top, and the only way to change the energy at Google is to bring qualified minorities and women to the board and executive table.

The views expressed in Damore’s memo play a major role in workplace conflicts that come up between employees who work right next to each other everyday. Many corporations are striving to achieve tremendous growth, and they need employees to fill jobs that are not all in the C-suite.  They need employees to be empowered to grow and move up in the organization.  Empowering these new employees means that they need to be guided on how to navigate the mental and emotional potholes that are revealed when it comes to diversity and race.

It’s important for all HR teams, boards and company leaders to ask themselves: how will we learn from this? Because we must.

“I am no longer willing to accept the things I cannot change, I am changing the things I no longer accept.”

Angela Davis

 

Intuitive Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to achieve their goals.  She is a career columnist with Black Enterprise and the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is also a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as corporate speaking events, workshops and facilitation.  For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com.


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Being Intuitively Aware of How to Create Miracles

Do you believe in miracles? If so, you are in sync with a recent poll that shows 9 out of 10 people believe in miracles. To me, believing in miracles and being comfortable with your intuition go hand-in-hand.

To recognize the miracles that are always happening in and around us, we need to understand what a miracle is. Is it a BIG, over-the-top life altering experience. It can be. But typically it’s not. Webster’s Dictionary defines a miracle as an exceptional event of special significance. The root word of miracle means wonderful. And when something fills us with wonder … that’s where the miracles are.

How many of those moments do we miss? When we learn to think intuitively, not so many. This means that we need to keep our spiritual goggles on to notice the special moments and recognize miracles in our lives. It could be little things such as receiving a check that we did not expect, as I did the other day just when it was needed. Or receiving an unexpected gift or hearing just what we needed to hear as we faced a difficult decision or circumstance.

What I have discovered is that miracles do not speak to the language of your mind, but of our soul. And the doorway to our soul is opened when we consciously embrace the gift of our intuition.  We cannot do this if we keep ourselves too busy to do this. We must set aside quiet time to enter into a state of silence, dedicating time to connecting with our inner wisdom. One of the best descriptions I have read of what it means to enter into the silence and discover your intuition is reflected in the book, Dying To Be Me by Anita Moorjani.

The author details her near death experience, also known as NDE:

“During my NDE, there was nothing outside of my greater awareness because I was one with the entirety of the Universal energy. It felt as though I encompassed totality. In that state, there was a total clarity and all become known. I seemed to become everything, and I existed in everything.”

 Each of us has the ability to connect with the Universal energy that Moorjani describes. We don’t have to be a yogi master, have a near death experience or levitate across the room to make a connection with this free-flowing energy.

Each breath we take and each choice we make provides the threads that connect us to our intuition. Many people think that miracles happen “out there,” but when we strengthen our intuitive muscle, we realize that we are experiencing miracles everyday (“in here”).

To align with this energy you must firmly ground yourself in the unwavering belief in your connection to the Source of all power. For me, being in nature many times draws me into this awareness in an instant. I recently visited one of the most visually captivating spots in the world, the Grand Canyon. Within a few minutes of looking out at one of the majestic peaks I heard my intuition say, “I am connected to all that has been created in the Universe. The power of miracles lies inside each person.”

You can enter into your own private experience with your intuition by taking deep breaths, or simply focusing on deep love and gratitude. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. The key is that by maintaining your intuitive connection, you are expanding your life at a deeper level.

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self.  She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.  Sheree Franklin is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations. For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.

 

 


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Intuition and vulnerability be truthful with yourself Sheree Franklin

Feeling Vulnerable: How to Adapt and Evolve into the Person You Want to Be

Let’s face it, most people hate feeling vulnerable.  It leaves us feeling exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed. The experience can feel like riding an emotional roller coaster and can be so strong that you experience it as a physical reaction in your body.

The key to overcoming feeling vulnerable is to intuitively know what is going on inside of you. Tune into your inner technology so you can learn to shift out of these emotions and take control.

The most effective way to learn to tap into your intuition is to be always be truthful with yourself.  If you are feeling vulnerable because you seriously screwed up an account or a relationship … own up to whatever has occurred. If it’s something else, get in touch with what it is and what triggered the emotional wave that hit you.

Vulnerability can be defined as feeling diminished, less then as an individual.  It happens often due to feeling discomfort with being criticized, ridiculed, and verbal or physical attack.  Feeling vulnerable is relative and dynamic. Vulnerability can also arise when people feel isolated, insecure and defenseless in the face of risk, social interactions and other stressful situations.  

Think about what situations make you feel vulnerable. Write down your thoughts. For me, I tend to get signs of feeling vulnerable whenever I’m in the midst one of the following:

  • Making a mistake
  • Listening to old internal critical messages going on inside of my mind
  • Spending time with people who I feel inferior to
  • Knowing that there is something that I need to take care of but for, whatever reason, have not done it yet
  • Feeling less then comfortable with my body
  • Struggling with a decision 

Once you explore and become aware of the situations that can bring up feelings of vulnerability for you, it’s time to come up with a game plan to help you regain your power. These tactics have worked well for my clients (and for myself) over the years:

  1. Put together a small team of no more than 2 or 3 people who are committed to always being honest with each other. Trusting people is not easy, but having a team means you will survive better than if you are going it alone. Ask your team to give you their honest feedback on identifying your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Listen carefully. Everyone has things that they are not proud of about themselves, but the sooner you get comfortable with knowing who you are, the easier it will be to know what you want to change inside.
  2. Be careful in revealing vulnerabilities in a work environment and with others who are not on your team. Many corporate environments can slam those who admit weakness. If you find yourself in an emotional free fall at your job, talk with your team as soon as you can and develop a strategy for the problem you are facing. Keep in mind that being a highly effective team member requires that you give as good as you get! This means that when your team member has a challenge, you step up to assist them without having to be chased down (as they do for you).  Surround yourself with people who have a different skill set than you and who are not afraid to admit when they have made a mistake.
  3. Play detective and discover what causes your doubts, fears and insecurities to rise to the surface. For me, it happens whenever I start to focus on feeling that others are superior to me. For a long time, I was afraid to write my first book because I did not have a PhD or Master’s degrees.  It was my team who kept encouraging and inspiring me to get my book done and to not worry about having the “right” degree.  Without these 2 people pushing me, Intuition:  The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use, would never have been written.  http://amzn.to/1UxlWLG
  4. Shift into a feeling of love. Love is the most powerful emotion there is, and consciously choosing to love yourself despite your imperfections will help prevent you from going into a free fall when you start to feel vulnerable.

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self.  She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations, consulting, facilitating and leading workshops. For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.

 


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Facing Uncertainty Sheree Franklin

Navigating Uncertainty by Tapping Into Your Intuition

Have you ever reached a crucial point in your life when you struggled to know what you should do? One of the best times to learn how to tap into your intuition is when you’re faced with the need to navigate uncertainty.

Fear is the number one reason why we are usually afraid to make a decision. We don’t want to make a mistake, and our fear of this can get in our way.

When you find yourself feeling uncertain, try these 3 techniques to help you make a decision:

1. Breathe deeply. The first thing that happens when we get nervous or panicky is we start to breathe quickly. It is very easy to get hyperventilated. Becoming aware of your breath is a big way to connect with your intuition. Research indicates as little as two to three minutes of conscious breathing has a very calming effect.  Once you focus on your breath for a couple of minutes, pose to yourself the question that you need to be answered.

2. Once you pose the question, write down each and every thought and idea that comes to you. Whatever information you receive, keep it private for at least 48 hours. Often, when we tell another person what we want to do, they often tell us all the reasons why it cannot be done. We stimulate our minds when we allow our thoughts to flow without judgment. Allowing your imagination to flow is a great way to consider what you would do if money were no option or if you are able to move past your own self-imposed barrier…fear!

3. Develop an informal advisory council that you can trust to run your ideas by.  Calling your own shots does not meant that you should not seek wisdom from people you know and trust.  There are  various options you might consider in a time of crisis and being able to share minds with people who are not judgmental and have your best interests at heart is invaluable. By allowing yourself to run through various options you are able to become comfortable with what feels right or wrong for you. Keep your advisory council small with no more than 2 or 3 people. These should be individuals who are willing to share their past mistakes and keep your information confidential.

When we are fearful, it’s often because we are afraid of the unknown. When you need to get to the bottom of something, it is important that you take quiet time with yourself. By opening up to your intuition, it expands and accelerates the infinite possibilities to you in life.

And remember – you can’t always avoid making a mistake. If you do make a mistake, it’s important to remember that our mistakes are opportunities for growth. In fact, we often learn the most from our life experiences that do no turn out the way we planned.

 

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self.  She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-on-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations, consulting and leading workshops. For more information, go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.

 


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Intuition Operates at Light Speed to Guide Us Sheree Franklin

Jumpstart Your Intuition

Scientists tell us that our intuition operates at rocket speed and helps us to make choices on everything from our career to others’ trustworthiness, intelligence and even sex appeal in less than 10 seconds. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had the conscious mind to tell ourselves to wait before making any decisions (big or small)?  Unfortunately, most of us rush through the choices we need to make because they come at us with breathtaking speed and/or we aren’t as tuned into our gut as we could be.

The challenge is: how can we transform ourselves to slow down our inherent busyness to make better decisions?

It’s easy to feel like we have to get things done quickly, especially when we’re faced with situations where we need to make a quick decision. For example, when I’m shopping online and the website tells me there are only 2 items left in the size I need, I feel compelled to make an immediate decision and either decide to go ahead and buy the item (with the thought that it can be returned), or I get too flustered to make an immediate decision, not sure what I should do … only to discover later on that the item I wanted is now unavailable (and live to regret my hesitation). This isn’t a life altering situation (unless it was that elusive perfect dress), but it’s indicative of what happens when quick decisions — of large and small magnitude — need to be made.

How can we improve our abilities to make better decisions in less time with less stress? Here are 5 tips:

  1.  Stop and take deep 6 deep breaths, then pose to yourself the question that you need an answer to. Ask for the answer to be revealed to you so clearly you cannot ignore the message.
  2. Trust your gut. Most of us are intuitively aware of our body’s warning signs when we are making a bad choice  Sometimes it happens at the most inopportune moments, such as  feeling confused about whether to jump on another expressway or allowing yourself to get so angry at your boss that you forget to censor your remarks.
  3. Let yourself off the hook. No one is perfect and making mistakes is part of the human experience. The biggest lesson to learn is how to forgive yourself when things do not turn out the way you planned. My last big boo-boo occurred when I thought I was  sending a text to my sister about an old boyfriend I ran into and had not seen in a long time. He was the man I always felt had “gotten away” and seeing him opened my eyes to the fact that despite his education, wealth and position, his health was terrible. Unfortunately, in my haste to text, I mistakenly sent the message to him! Realizing my mistake I owned up to my text right away and apologized for sounding insensitive. Needless to say, he did not respond at that time (although texted to wish me a happy birthday at my next birthday). If we ever see each other again, you can bet I will not send any texts about it to anyone! If I must, I will follow steps 1 and 2 above and follow my own advice first.
  4. Surround yourself with people who admit they make mistakes and are open to sharing how they fixed them.
  5. Finally, set the intention at the start of each day to embrace and feel the emotion of hope very deeply, believing that every day above ground is a good one!

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self.  She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations. For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.


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Safety and Intuition Sheree Franklin

Use Your Intuition To Stay Safe

As we age, the ability to access our intuition has the power to expand our consciousness and to adjust to the changes that are always going on around us. While we may not able to run as fast or have greater strength than a person who attempts to steal or attack us, an aware mind can quickly assess danger and direct us to take action rather than sit around and wait to see what will happen.

The best way to be aware of your intuition is to pay attention to what is going on in your body. Think of your body as your internal laboratory that provides us with signals and clues to what is going on in and around at all times. Intuition is not passive; it is an active energy that affects everything we do.

Learning your own individual internal signs is critical to staying safe. Do words pass through your head? Do you feel danger in your stomach? Your jaws? Your skin? Pay attention to the subtle (or not so subtle) unique clues your body gives you. Also, develop the habit of of setting the intention to connect with your inner wisdom every day when you first wake up. Visualize a beautiful shield of protective light around you, your communities and your family. Before you enter your home – or enter any new environment – develop the habit of allowing yourself to “feel” what is going on before you go inside.  It is especially important to do a quick check before entering into an elevator or other confined spaces.  Do not be concerned about hurting someone’s feelings if you decide not to enter somewhere you don’t feel safe. Listen to your inner guidance rather than discounting it.

It’s also important to note (and remember) that the potential to be come a victim is greater when we are mindlessly talking on our cell phones or not paying attention to what is going on around us. You can’t pay attention to your intuition if you leave no space for it.

 

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self. She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use. To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations, consulting and leading workshops. For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.

 


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Intuition Sheree Franklin

Intuitive People Should Hang Out With People Who Value Their Hunches

People who want to sharpen their intuitive abilities will benefit greatly from hanging out with individuals who value this skill and are supportive. When each person is free to explore and openly discuss their hunches, insights or intuitive thoughts, it actually increases the influence of inner knowing. Research shows that when you spend time with people who respect and believe in intuition, your gut instinct gets stronger!

My advice for those who wish to develop their intuitive muscle is to allow for variety in your life.  Limit time with inflexible or rigid people who are judgmental about your hunches. When you start to pay attention to the flow of your life — without censoring, editing or discounting — it allows you the freedom to explore your inner feelings and gut instincts. Resist sorting out your experiences according to what you think they ought to be or what you’re told is “acceptable.”

Developing your intuition is innate and natural and often inspired by the people you connect with in our daily lives. Allowing yourself to freely express your interests (and the positive feedback you receive) are two of the most critical factors in expanding your senses.

When you connect with people who are judgmental about your intuition, the experience can can pack an emotional wallop that blocks you from sensing things around you. The emotional significance of being with people who support your need to explore the spiritual side of life allows for an expansive view of things in life.

Living intuitively allows for you to:
1. Expand your other senses.
2. Operate from the sense of seeing everything as “living in perfection.”
3. Set aside ego-based desires and preferences and let life flow and unfold on its own.

By living intuitively you will probably discover that the universe will meet you more than halfway. Sharpening this skill may lead to a more joyful, prosperous and healthy life.

 

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self.  She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG. Sheree is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations and leading workshops. For more information, go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.


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Intuition Quote from Sheree Franklin

Learning to Forgive Yourself After You Ignore Your Intuition

Have you ever looked in a person’s eyes and knew immediately that something was wrong? Saying what you sense can be risky because you never know how the other person will take the information. And what happens if you are so convinced that your intuition is correct that you take it a step further and share your concerns and the individual flicks it off like a piece of lint?

It’s easy for me to rely on my own intuition to help guide my life, because that is what I do in my work. But getting a person who is not a trusted friend or a client to listen is often a lot harder. And there’s the other issue of me being morally committed to not violate another person’s privacy and giving them information without being asked.

My internal struggle with knowing when to say something led to me write this blog post today. It involved a carpenter who was working on a big project in our building. The difficulty of the job was due, in part, because “Bill”  had to interact with one female in our cooperative who has a DNA for control. He was a friendly guy and, unfortunately, made the mistake of giving his cell phone number to the female bully. She ended up calling him all hours of the day and night. When faced with this behavior, he did not establish boundaries and tell her to stop or simply decide to keep his cell phone turned off when he went home. Bill’s reactions to her mirrored those of others in our cooperative who would do anything rather than go up against the female bully. I faced the same dilemma myself, after serving for 3 years on the Board, and made the decision to resign when we got into a shouting match over the phone, and I decided to listen when my intuition it told me, “she is not worth it.”

One particular day I looked “Bill” in the eye and saw what I sensed as a feeling of hopelessness. The feeling hit me so hard I took the time to ask him if everything was okay and if he was getting enough rest. Bill pushed off my comment and gave me a fake smile to back up that “everything was okay.” When I got to work, the feeling I had about Bill kept nagging me, and I decided to call his boss and suggest that perhaps his worker needed some time off. I mentioned the strong personality he was dealing with and my sense of what was present in Bill’s eyes.

The owner on the company is a good man, but he had also fallen into the same stressed out camp of allowing the female bully to bully him. I guess it is easy to understand why my suggestion fell on deaf ears.

A week or so later, Bill, the carpenter quit. It turned out he was a recovering alcoholic and had relapsed. All this happened well over a year ago, but it all came flooding back when the owner of the construction company sent me a text recently, telling me that Bill had died of alcoholism.

As you can imagine, the owner of the company is in pain over all this. And even though he is not a client, I gave him the following spiritual treatment suggestions to help him though this period:

1. Each day, say the Serenity Prayer as many times as possible.
2. While driving, when feelings of anxiety and guilt come up, say the Lord’s Prayer out loud at least ten times.
3. Remember funny stories about Bill and pray for his family and children.
4. Reach out to the family on a consistent basis and do random acts of kindness on a regular basis.

The news of Bill’s death affected me deeply too, I had to follow my own treatment advice above, because there is still a nagging feeling inside that I could have done more to help.

In hindsight, I realize how easy it was for me to recognize the warning signs in Bill’s eyes because alcoholism has played a role in two critical male relationships in my life. First, my Dad was an alcoholic during my teenage years. This was over 30 years ago, and people did not talk about alcoholism like they do today. My mother’s way of handling it was to tell us that nothing was wrong. This experience so affected me that I only realized the full impact it had on my life when I had to come to grips with the fact that my first marriage was to an alcoholic.

My dad eventually stopped drinking and became the kind of father who supported us all and did everything he could to help others. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for my first husband. We divorced, and he has never been able to beat this dreadful disease.

This morning, the old hurts came flooding back over this young man I knew only briefly who died. And I would be remiss if I did not mention that I do have resentment in my heart over the female bully in my building who I believe played a part in pushing him over the edge.  The owner of the company and I agreed that we would not share the news of Bill’s death with her. I have watched her long enough to realize that she has no capacity for guilt, so telling her would not change anything.  And, of course, she was most likely not the only factor in causing Bill’s relapse. As a recovering alcoholic, there is no telling the other issues he was facing.

As part of the human experience, we owe it to each other to attempt to discuss our intuitive concerns with people we care about. Yes, it is risky and not everyone will admit to you that they are in trouble. But saying nothing will hurt much worse if something occurs and you find yourself living with regret because you didn’t take the chance to express what you sensed.

Intuitive Life Strategist Sheree Franklin helps people to find the courage to release their life challenges in order to live in alignment with their true self. She is the author of Intuition: The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use.  To learn more about Franklin’s book go to www.amzn.to/1UxlWLG.

Sheree Franklin is a practitioner at Holistic Health Practice at One East Superior, in Chicago. You can email your questions at [email protected] Her practice includes one-to-one coaching as well as speaking to organizations. For more information go to www.shereefranklin.com or call 312-664-8376.


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