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Oprah Ultimate Viewer Embraces Love After Going to Australia

Sunday, February 13th, 2011

It has been a little over two months since I have returned from the Oprah’s Ultimate Australia Adventure and each day something happens to remind me of this enlightening journey. Valentine’s Day offers a special opportunity to recall the overwhelming sense of love that flowed on this trip. The 300 audience members who traveled Down Under featured a smorgasbord of all kinds of couples…mothers and children, siblings, lovers and friends. Regardless of their differences the note which sounded most clearly in this group was love!

Expressing love allowed each day in Australia to flow with creativity and imagination. No matter what was going on in our lives back home, the group lived fully in the now.

Since coming back there are all kind of challenges going on for many of us. Chronic unemployment, foreclosures, health challenges and weather changes are creating a frightening time for many in our group. Feeling love does not erase all of this! What this emotion does do is it opens you up to believing there are infinite opportunities and wonderful adventures available to all of us! Remaining open is what changes things. The more seasoned you are to experiencing love the more capable you are to responding in the moment to whatever happens to you in life.

Here are three steps to help you focus on love this Valentine’s Day:

1. Meditate on “I am loving awareness.” In his book, Be Love Now, Ram Dass calls spiritual practice and meditation the foundation for living in the present. When we express compassion in our heart for ourselves, this frees us from carrying around the emotional clutter of old habits, regrets and residues of deep hurts and fears.

2. Create a spiritual community. Hang out with people who are on the same journey. It has been remarkable watching 14 women who traveled to the Northern Territory together, continue to maintain regular contact through emails and conference calls. In a very sense Oprah’s Ultimate Australia Adventure trip created this for us.

3. Biggest step is surrendering. Letting go of the stuff that keeps you from moving forward is the only way to truly embrace life. We watched who people who traveled to Down Under give up their fear of heights, water, groups and even the unknown! Surrendering to love is an ongoing process. it does not mean that you won’t face pain or disappointments.

The Ultimate Australian Adventure was in many ways a constant stream of love. The lessons learned from this experience are still unfolding for many who traveled on this amazing trip with Oprah. For many it has fortified their self worth, expanded their view of the world and allowed them to once again remember how it feels to experience love!

Oprah celebrates in Sydney with Ultimate Fans

Oprah celebrates in Sydney with Ultimate Fans

Job Hunting With Positive Energy

Monday, September 20th, 2010

Paying attention to the random energy we experience in our lives is a powerful tool to utilize in today’s challenging job market. Each of us has a positive and negative filter on all the time. Our inner technology makes us aware of what is helping or hindering us from achieving the things we want. Oftentimes, we don’t pay attention to what is going on inside of us either because we are too busy or we haven’t been conditioned to believe our intuitive insights are valuable.

The energy which usually blocks our intuition is fear. When we are afraid it limits our ability to process information effectively. Becoming aware of what stops your growth and development will help you navigate the job market with greater confidence and clarity.

Here are six ways to pay attention to the free-flowing classroom that all of us are experiencing in life:

1. Pay attention to the people or circumstances that make you fearful. Set the intention to create an opposite experience then what you typically feel when someone or something makes you afraid. If you know that interviewing makes you nervous take time to mentally prepare on all the levels. Record yourself role playing the answers to the questions you intuitively feel will be asked and practice at least two answers. Think of your statements as being “mini commercials,” and sell yourself and your strengths and abilities in short, concise statements.

2. Listen to your intuition. When you develop a healthy relationship with your inner technology it will appear like a trusted friend and alert you when things don’t feel or sound right. Paying attention to your “interior vision,” will allow you to focus on how your body is processing different experiences.

3. Lift up your energy before a meeting or interview. Astute interviewers look for individuals who make them feel good. The critical point is that you must be authentic. Forcing energy that you are not feeling can be easily detected. That’s why you must take time to mentally, physically, emotionally and even spiritually prepare before you sit down for any important meeting. Fine tuning your energy field allows others to easily feel a positive flow coming from you. An excellent example of an individual who knows how to work with energy effectively is Ellen Degeneres. She starts her show by playing music and dancing around the studio with her audience. Everyone becomes engaged at an energetic level and believes they will have a great time. Determine what raises your energy and use it before going to an interview or an important meeting.

4 Make a gratitude list. It is easy to focus of all the things we do not have in our lives. This is a simple technique which is easy to do even if you don’t have a pencil. If you are alone, say the list out loud. It can be particular helpful if you find yourself feeling bad after a situation didn’t go the way you hoped.

5. Know what lifts your energy. Being able to soothe yourself is a valuable tool for being able to recover from everything from a so-so job interview to getting the news that you were not the selected candidate. Staying in a down energy field will limit your ability to rebound quickly for that next opportunity!

6. Avoid absorbing other people’s fears. Distancing yourself from people who are energy drainers is critical. Decide who builds your energy and choose to be with individuals who make your spirit soar! This is particularly difficult when the energy drainer in your life is either a dear friend or family member. Taking mini breaks from energy sappers isn’t being selfish…this allows you to take care of yourself so you will radiate positive energy needed to land that perfect job!

Job Seekers Must Use Intuition to Heal Fear

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

It’s hard to make sense of things when you are looking for a job. Everywhere we turn the news media, movies and conversations with friends are focused on how many people are looking for work. Sometimes when we least expect it our worse fears throw us into an emotional, mental, spiritual and even physical tailspin.

Gregg Braden in the book, Secrets of the Last Mode of Prayer calls this period “a Dark Night of the Soul.” This is a time in your life when you’ll be drawn into a situation that represents what, for you, are your worse fears. When you are in this stage problems will present on all levels, with business, family and friends. According to Braden each of us will experience the Dark Night of the Soul throughout our lifetime. The first is usually the worse. One female client who has recently lost her job, and is going through a divorce, has faced this twice in the last few months.

Being aware of your emotions is the best way not to let fear control you. Each of us has at our disposal a unique weapon…our sensory arsenal, to alert and warn you when things are going haywire inside. Your internal signals are your intuition. Awareness is power. Here are the steps my client took to shift out of this emotional tailspin:

1. Try to identify what caused the fear eruption. In my client’s case it was an upcoming phone interview that she painstakingly worked to manifest.

2. Take action. One of the best ways I’ve found to energetically shift is to say The Lord’s Prayer out loud 10 times. In addition, to do mindful breathing and repeat a mantra such as “Peace be still.” If you find yourself unable to shift on your own turn to a trusted friend or counselor who will not judge you.

The blessing that occurs for many people, when they heal their fears is that you will be intuitively guided to the best step to follow. In my client’s case she felt a need to physically dress-up for the telephone interview in complete business attire. This action gave her the subtle shift to handle the call with an added layer of confidence and clarity, and she moved into the next stage in the interview process.