Our feelings are all around us and are difficult to control, but gaining this ability has the power to transform and accelerate healing in all areas of your life. In my work as an Intuitive Counselor and Coach, my clients suffer from anger over everything from relationships breakups, mistreatment by their parents to not having achieved their potential. Regardless of the experience, the lesson is always the same, when we recognize our internal boiling point, we have the ability to control the outcome.

Sometime ago while walking with my husband we were debating a number of issues in our relationship. I became so engrossed in our conversation that suddenly a small barking dog appeared at my feet. The dog’s owner quickly answered my question about it’s arrival and told me, “it is barking like you are.” Within an instant my level of anger rose to the point where we exchanged some very heated words. Suddenly we were waving fingers, saying things that could have resulted in physical violence.

In a moment of clarity, I became consciously aware of the danger and choose to disconnect from the experience. This is where practicing emotional hygiene becomes so powerful, because each of us moment by moment can choose to create to change anything we want. After expressing to the woman my desire for “peace,” and a willingness to accept blame for the anger outburst, I choose to consciously disconnect and started to walk away.

My reaction was met with a great deal of resistance from the woman, and she continued to follow us. With her yelling behind me, I willed my mind, body and spirit to focus on peace and love. Covering us both with a protective layer of white light, we resumed our walk and the woman at some point disappeared.

This experience served as a vital lesson for my work with my clients. Teaching people to be intuitively aware of their feelings allows us to collect the data that is needed to change any circumstance we face in our lives. This capacity is vital to understanding our choices, options and alternatives to achieving a prosperous, healthy and long life.

The book, Infinite Mind by Dr. Valerie Hunt is one of the first truly scientific understanding of the relationship between energy field disturbances, disease and emotional pathologies. Best known for her pioneering research in the field of bioenergy, Dr. Hunt’s visionary approach coupled with a rigorous adherence to the highest scientific standards has won her international acclaim in the fields of physiology, medicine and bioengineering.

Each of us has the capacity to recognize the emotion of anger and to control it. If you observe yourself being angry and allow yourself to step back intuitively, this will give you the power to make a different choice.

Journalist Lynne McTaggert author of the The Field:  The Quest for the Secret Force of the Universe wrote:  “Particles exist in all possible states until disturbed by us-by observing or measuring-at which point, they settle down, at long last into something real.”

Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs are the programs in this invisible energy field.  Most of us are distracted by our fear-based perceptions and refuse to acknowledge or believe our own inherent goodness. The invisible energy field that shapes matter, as defined by quantum physics has the same invisible shaping that metaphysicans define as “spirit.”

Most of us are too busy to make dedicated time to connect with our spirit.  We must use little chunks of time to do this, instead of waiting for the perfect day in which you have “lots of time.”

We make choices.  Each of us can choose to be either a victim or our own hero.  As humans we have the unique capacity to brainstorm possible changes in our beliefs and take all life has to give.  Hoping and dreaming about your future is the first step, and it must be followed by action.  The internal connection we have does not need anything else.