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Thursday, September 23rd, 2010
Many job seekers find themselves repeating the same experiences and don’t know how to transform, trust or identify the best way to find work. Regardless of the position the person is looking for, unless they strengthen their intuitive muscle they tend to attract the same cycles again and again.
Identifying a person’s cycle is critical in my work as an Intuitive Counselor and Coach. The first thing I do when working with an individual is to ask, “Where is this person in the stage of their life? The three cycles we all face are:
1. Achievement – this is the cycle we all want to be in, but it is the hardest energy level to maintain. To be in achievement we must do unique and innovative things. An example of a person clearly in the achievement cycle is Don Thompson, President and Chief Operating Officer of McDonald’s USA. He has the tremendous responsibility for setting the strategic tone for 32,000 McDonald’s restaurants in 117 countries. Despite a very heavy workload and travel schedule, when Thompson is home he is there 100% for his wife and children. Also, he has a philanthropic spirit which keeps the achievement cycle continuing.
2. Plateau – this is the stage where we stop taking risks. We get comfortable and don’t feel the need to change. Most of us stay in relationships, jobs even apartments or houses longer then we should. One obvious example of an industry that has been stuck in the plateau cycle has been the American automotive industry. Recently, we’ve seen signs that Ford has made tremendous efforts to focus on quality. One of the most powerful ways to shift into achievement is to analyze the past, identify what you’ve done wrong, and to actively work to change.
3. Upheaval – many of us will do anything to avoid going through upheaval. Being in this cycle actually is one that can lead to our greatest growth and development, because how you act when you are in upheaval determines how long before you are in achievement again. A female client who stayed in an unhappy marriage for close to 20 years made the decision to file for divorce two years ago. As she feared, the legal battle has been a difficult one. In addition, nine months ago she was also downsized from a 6-figure position. Despite the pain and anguish, this 50-something year-old Baby Boomer has started to regain her footing and has learned some critical life lessons. First of all, she has broken the cycle of attracting a “bad boy,” and is now dating a man who values and appreciates her. In addition, the picture for success does not include the Fortune 500 companies she would have typically sought for her next position. Instead, she is looking for work with an organization that reflects her desire to give service.
Those who express a willingness to recognize and explore the inherent patterns in their life will open the doorway to change in less time with less stress. Each of us has ample talents and abilities to live the highest version of our life plan. When we gain a deeper understanding of our cycles it will help guide us to creating what we want in our lives.
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Monday, September 20th, 2010
Paying attention to the random energy we experience in our lives is a powerful tool to utilize in today’s challenging job market. Each of us has a positive and negative filter on all the time. Our inner technology makes us aware of what is helping or hindering us from achieving the things we want. Oftentimes, we don’t pay attention to what is going on inside of us either because we are too busy or we haven’t been conditioned to believe our intuitive insights are valuable.
The energy which usually blocks our intuition is fear. When we are afraid it limits our ability to process information effectively. Becoming aware of what stops your growth and development will help you navigate the job market with greater confidence and clarity.
Here are six ways to pay attention to the free-flowing classroom that all of us are experiencing in life:
1. Pay attention to the people or circumstances that make you fearful. Set the intention to create an opposite experience then what you typically feel when someone or something makes you afraid. If you know that interviewing makes you nervous take time to mentally prepare on all the levels. Record yourself role playing the answers to the questions you intuitively feel will be asked and practice at least two answers. Think of your statements as being “mini commercials,” and sell yourself and your strengths and abilities in short, concise statements.
2. Listen to your intuition. When you develop a healthy relationship with your inner technology it will appear like a trusted friend and alert you when things don’t feel or sound right. Paying attention to your “interior vision,” will allow you to focus on how your body is processing different experiences.
3. Lift up your energy before a meeting or interview. Astute interviewers look for individuals who make them feel good. The critical point is that you must be authentic. Forcing energy that you are not feeling can be easily detected. That’s why you must take time to mentally, physically, emotionally and even spiritually prepare before you sit down for any important meeting. Fine tuning your energy field allows others to easily feel a positive flow coming from you. An excellent example of an individual who knows how to work with energy effectively is Ellen Degeneres. She starts her show by playing music and dancing around the studio with her audience. Everyone becomes engaged at an energetic level and believes they will have a great time. Determine what raises your energy and use it before going to an interview or an important meeting.
4 Make a gratitude list. It is easy to focus of all the things we do not have in our lives. This is a simple technique which is easy to do even if you don’t have a pencil. If you are alone, say the list out loud. It can be particular helpful if you find yourself feeling bad after a situation didn’t go the way you hoped.
5. Know what lifts your energy. Being able to soothe yourself is a valuable tool for being able to recover from everything from a so-so job interview to getting the news that you were not the selected candidate. Staying in a down energy field will limit your ability to rebound quickly for that next opportunity!
6. Avoid absorbing other people’s fears. Distancing yourself from people who are energy drainers is critical. Decide who builds your energy and choose to be with individuals who make your spirit soar! This is particularly difficult when the energy drainer in your life is either a dear friend or family member. Taking mini breaks from energy sappers isn’t being selfish…this allows you to take care of yourself so you will radiate positive energy needed to land that perfect job!
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Friday, September 17th, 2010
In a challenging job market people are more concerned about keeping the jobs they do have then ever before. With less employees handling more tasks, people are feeling a higher level of stress, making it easier to do something wrong. Big challenges will often create the stimulus needed to remove the obstacles that we feel are holding us back. Knowing how to obtain the information to move out of a challenge mode is critical. Here are the four steps that you need to make it happen:
1. Forgive yourself. As human beings we all here to grow and evolve. A big part of our growth occurs when we realize and understand the value of our mistakes. Letting yourself off the hook for past wrongs goes a long way to helping you to analyze and decide the best things to do to fix a problem. If you need help with clearing the energy around things you have done wrong in your professional and personal life, consider reading the book, Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping and the free website by the same name www.radicalforgiveness.com This is one of the best tools to energetically help you shift out of anything that is holding you back.
2. Admit what you’ve done wrong. Sitting on a problem and not talking about it only magnifies the issue when it is discovered. As members of the human race each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses. Most of us don’t know how to properly access our strengths. Every person knows intuitively what we do well, but we cloud that information with our own set of insecurities or society’s conditioning about what “we should do.” Take time to make a list of your strengths. If you need help in figuring out your best attributes then ask a trusted friend or even a former employer what makes you unique.
2. Set things right as soon as possible. Heightened development occurs when we take responsibility for our actions. We each have a choice to live at the fully expression of our highest self. Framing things in a positive context will allow you to present what you’ve done to fix the problem as an enlightened experience.
3. Develop a way to internally handle mistakes. A 2,500 year-old Buddhist meditation practice found in Judith Orloff’s book, Positive Energy is one that you might find helpful to keep in your wallet or purse:
May I be free of worry.
May I be well.
May I feel safe and ease.
May I be at peace.
4. Write down what happened. A business owner who recently did a presentation for a large corporate client spent time analyzing the different styles of her competitors. One person didn’t talk about her company at all and instead set about a fact-finding mission on the potential client. Since my client had been courting the client for at least 6 months many of those answers she knew and instead focused on the strengths of her organization. Unfortunately, others in the room didn’t have the same background knowledge and the feedback generated indicated that the fact-finding style was viewed more positively. Going over this scenario over and over again with me, the insight I offered was to write everything that happened down. Being able to review what has occurred allows the our intuitive insight to flow, once we have disconnected emotionally. In my client’s case she became aware that the corporate client was not a good fit for her company. This opened the doorway for exploring different presentation styles on the next venture, as well as letting herself off the hook for what had occurred. Writing down the lesson learned in our experience allows for your intuitive insight to expand. With the clearer knowledge, wisdom and insight you are less likely to repeat the same mistakes.
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Wednesday, September 15th, 2010
Baby boomer women who are looking for work, face a unique set of challenges requiring them to balance career demands with caregiver responsibilities.
In the book, The Daughter Trap by Laurel Kennedy, she describes the emotional turmoil women face in today’s tough job market, “Busy caregivers running from commitment to commitment rarely make time for personal inventory to assess what is happening with them.”
According to Kennedy, many women intuitively know that the burden of caring for elderly parents typically falls on their shoulders. She says leading edge baby boomers (born between 1946 and 1955) are grappling with new technologies and are extremely vulnerable to market fluctuations making them prime candidates for cutbacks and downsizing of positions.
AARP predicts as many as 30% of employees will be elder care providers. Half of American workers are expected to be caregivers by 2013. With women carrying the bulks of the responsibility when it comes to taking care of older parents and family members, decisions about what jobs to apply for are often based on the needs of others. This results in them earning less money and being ill-prepared for when they retire.
The Daughter Trap provides one of the most detailed and thought-provoking analysis of the price women pay in taking care of others. There are number of pitfalls that baby boomers need to be aware of when it comes to looking for work.
Developing a youthful demeanor is critical in today’s job market. Negative stereotyping holds true for anyone over 50. Older workers who lose a job will find themselves competing against much younger people who also have less responsibilities outside of work.
In a 2008 study, half of 2,000 respondents cited ageism as the most prominent form of discrimination in the workplace.
Communicating a willingness to accept new ideas is a strong point to emphasize in any job interview. Give examples of groups you interact with that show a wide range of ages. Record your voice and carefully evaluate how you sound over the phone. Make an effort to be peaceful inside no matter what is going on in your person life.
Ask a younger person to evaluate your interview outfit. Modify your hair and glasses if necessary to be more competitive. Keeping a positive outlook is also critical. Preparing for a job interview requires baby boomers to be highly organized, because you must allow time to prepare and manage your caregiver responsibilities. Astute interviewers are highly intuitive and can tell when a person’s energy is low. According to Kennedy, women who admit to being involved in elder care are often viewed as being unreliable job candidates.
Corporate America is often responsive to the needs of children but no so when it comes to providing for the needs of the elderly. The companies that are cited as being the most helpful with their employees working with older parents are: Pitney Bowes, General Electric, Pepisco and IBM.
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Sunday, September 12th, 2010
Multitasking may seem like the best way to do things but actually lessens your ability to tap into your intuition to alert us when we are doing things right or wrong. Everything adds up… we work on our computer, listen to cell phone messages, send a text message…and this actually causes our inner knowing to nosedive making us less productive.
Our moods and even energy levels are affected by all this. The solution is simpler then you realize! Here are four steps for avoiding multitasking:
1. Set boundaries. Restrict the volume of incoming information. One of the main side effects of technology is that we are always floating between tasks. The other day I was leaving a restaurant while responding to an email on my Iphone and almost fell down a couple of stairs. Processing all the different ways we receive information takes tremendous energy. Whether you are doing an important task or a minor one consider setting a time-off period in which you turn off technology and focus on only one thing at a time. Clearing your energy field of information overload leaves you free to concentrate on one project at a time.
2. Center yourself. In the book The Inner Quest by Consuella Newton she cites the need for “being present within our presence at all times.” Feeling your life’s rhythm will allow you to fully experience your emotional signals which alerts you to intuitively knowing when you are moving in the right direction. Taking the time to fully inhale and exhale a few times is a great way to get started. The key is being alert and aware to information when it comes in.
3. Lighten your To Do List. Overloading yourself with items that can’t be done in a normal 8-10 hour work day is often why we feel the need to do two, three or even four things at the same time! Filling our day with impossible demands results in our energy being depleted as well as causing a feeling of being out-of-control. We are constantly processing positive and negative energy. It’s easy to max out and end up feeling depleted. Put the items that are time-sensitive first on your to-do list, and once they are completed, you will experience a feeling of success, making you less inclined to hit an energy assault, resulting in you feeling energized and able to accomplish more things.
4. Create public and private deadlines – Once a particular job or or task is identified, determine your own private date for completion. Give yourself benchmarks to insure that you honor your commitment. Trusting that you are always going to get things done early will allow you to listen to your internal signals more effectively. Intuitively pinpoint the source of anything that is blocking your progress. Because you aren’t trying to do multiple tasks you will be more prone to recognize what behaviors need to modified or changed such as limiting everything from long lunch breaks and/or conversations with co-workers.
Eliminating multitasking awakens your intuition – giving you a wide range of solutions when challenges occur. When we focus on expanding our inner listening this helps us fully experience life’s rhythm to making us more alert aware and energized!
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Friday, September 10th, 2010
Turning to your intuition for guidance in your job search is one of the best ways successfully navigate in today’s challenging work environment. Here are five key steps to connect with your inner knowing that will help you in this vital process.
1. Meditate regularly – Research shows that regular meditators are more likely to alter habits or even moods. Focusing on what you want is a way to uplift your spirit to approach a difficult period as a blessing. Even short periods of quiet reflection make a difference. Research shows that as little as 10 minutes of quieting your mind will have a powerful impact on your attitude and thoughts.
2. Open up your heart energy – Before your interview (phone or live) ask yourself what does your body says about the vibes you want to send out. Look at your posture, even if you are doing a phone interview, dress up. Take note of the both the positive and negative things your intuition picks up. Make a checklist of what your inner knowing tells you. Once you become aware of your body’s signals it will become easier to make choices which are aligned with what you want. When you go through the checklist pay attention to all your feelings. Subconsciously we often connect with our past experiences and then unknowingly attract in the same circumstances! Repeating the same lessons will only delay your progress. Determine if there is unfinished business that you need to address.
3. Take time for a pep talk! Everything is about sales…and selling yourself to yourself is critical. Pay attention to your self talk. If you don’t believe in you, who will? Know yourself and become aware of what raises your energy level. If it is reading something uplifting make time for that everyday. For many people listening to motivating songs is a way to help raise their consciousness. My theme song in one difficult period of my life was Gloria Estefan’s “Coming Out of the Darkness.”
4. Connect with your interviewer. I’m not saying be phony, but find a way to notice something that matters about this person that stands out. Use this approach in every meeting that you have with people, you never know who will open the door of opportunity for you. Creating a positive attitude goes a long way to affect others. The energy of communication happens in our subtle energy. It travels from heart to heart and is subconsciously impacted on the person’s mind.
5. Do soulful giving. One of the best ways I’ve found to shift out of a difficult period is to get busy giving. Three years ago, when I faced the tremendous loss of my Mother’s death, while trying to build my practice, I gave God a list of everything I needed. Later that day while driving by a neighborhood church my intuition came back with the question, “You told me what you need, but what are you willing to give?” I parked my car and went into the church and signed up to join a team to be a volunteer to help feed the homeless. It took a few weeks, but slowly but surely things started to improve on all levels. Not only did giving allow for my heart to heal but the energy shifted and clients started to come in on a regular basis.
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Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
A highly effective job hunt includes utilizing every experience in our lives to land that critical position. Combining professional skills with your intuition is a powerful tool to make yourself stand out in a tough job market. Even insignificant skills that you have learned help to create a picture of who you are. Expressing your natural abilities through your interests, passion or hobbies is a highly effective way to show your authentic self.
The key is to carefully balance the interview process to showcase your skills and abilities with your special interests. Working at this level requires dedicating time to writing a script, combining the tool sets derived from your past jobs, as well those acquired through organizations or social activities. Taking the time to develop and practice your elevator speech should be a part of any effective job hunting arsenal.
One female executive who was unemployed for close to two years, said her involvement with a local business chamber is what led to her being invited back for a second interview. Showing leadership ability made her standout in a highly competitive search and she was selected for a $80,000 position after six interviews. Questions that you can expect to be asked include:
Give a specific example of what you have done recently to display leadership ability.
Describe a risk that you have taken and the outcome that occurred as a result of this experience.
Discuss a team interaction you were a part of and the results.
Spotlighting your strengths is a way to emphasize to a potential employer the flexibility and willingness to give your best to any job. Candidates who have not invested in extracurricular activities that offer growth opportunities will find themselves in an extremely difficult position in an already crowded job market. The key is to get involved in organizations that speak to your soul while you are looking for work. Volunteering is also an excellent tool for networking.
An unemployed male sales manager, has advanced to the final interview stage as a direct result of his volunteer work as a football coach. His ability to coach separates him from all the other sales manager candidates.
Volunteer with with an organization or association that works in an area that intuitively calls you. Don’t expect immediate results. Building a reputation for chipping in and meeting commitments is what makes people standout. Know what jobs emit a healing energy and make you feel a sense of service. Our energy reflects our experience and if you are interviewing or working in a job that you really don’t like or doesn’t serve your soul, others know it as well. Working in an energy restorative environment penetrates every level in life.
In tough times, the tough must be creative!
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Monday, May 31st, 2010
Life is much more then our physical body; it is a free-flowing energy; continuous emotions and if we desire a conscious connection to our spirit; which far exceeds our physical experience. Living in the body is an important classroom. By expanding your intuition you are opening a book which is creating infinite possibilities that never end. The four keys for understanding this book are as follows:
1. Decide to be happy now. Regardless of your challenges or circumstances each of us has the ability to choose happiness. There are people who face tremendous challenges who are happy and those who have great blessings that are not. When we support our body with the emotion of happiness it allows us to be aware when something is out-of-balance. People who go to the doctor when they notice something amiss even before test results bear them out, are the ones who are most likely to prevail over any health challenge. Those who dare to talk about relationships going astray before they fall apart are also the ones who are most likely to put things right. It is a lot easier to smile then to frown.
2. Choose to perceive things differently. Everyone has things that get under our skin. In the book, A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson states, “People have focused more on the crucifixion more than resurrection. But crucifixion without the resurrection is a meaningless symbol. Crucifixion is the energy pattern of fear, the manifestation of a closed heart. Resurrection is the reversal of that pattern, bought about by a shift in thought from fear to love.” How many times do we see ourselves as being the victim when we experience what we believe to be an injustice? Staying in this energy range blocks us from being open to hearing the truth about a situation or maybe even knowing that what has happened has been a transformational change that we need.
3. Believe that life clings only to good. Trusting your spiritual radar takes practice. Sometimes we turn our internal GPS off by either choosing not to feel, living in anger, or being so busy that we do not allow ourselves to listen. Take time each day to allow yourself to experience silence. Even a few minutes can make a vital difference.
4. Participate in hopeful projects. It’s easy to give a dollar or so to a homeless person, but it is when we consciously choose to provide sustaining gifts to hopeful organizations such as the Peace Corps, that we are fully participating in our society. Rather then constantly complaining we have become a part of the solution. People who operate at this level tend to feel hopeful even when major disasters occur.
One project I’ve started to express hope for my city is entitled, “Bring Peace to Chicago.” This is a group meditation created to stop the violent crime. This meditation will take place from June 7th thru July 30th. To find out more information go to www.chicagonow.com/blogs/bringing-peace-to-chicago/
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Thursday, April 15th, 2010
It’s hard to make sense of things when you are looking for a job. Everywhere we turn the news media, movies and conversations with friends are focused on how many people are looking for work. Sometimes when we least expect it our worse fears throw us into an emotional, mental, spiritual and even physical tailspin.
Gregg Braden in the book, Secrets of the Last Mode of Prayer calls this period “a Dark Night of the Soul.” This is a time in your life when you’ll be drawn into a situation that represents what, for you, are your worse fears. When you are in this stage problems will present on all levels, with business, family and friends. According to Braden each of us will experience the Dark Night of the Soul throughout our lifetime. The first is usually the worse. One female client who has recently lost her job, and is going through a divorce, has faced this twice in the last few months.
Being aware of your emotions is the best way not to let fear control you. Each of us has at our disposal a unique weapon…our sensory arsenal, to alert and warn you when things are going haywire inside. Your internal signals are your intuition. Awareness is power. Here are the steps my client took to shift out of this emotional tailspin:
1. Try to identify what caused the fear eruption. In my client’s case it was an upcoming phone interview that she painstakingly worked to manifest.
2. Take action. One of the best ways I’ve found to energetically shift is to say The Lord’s Prayer out loud 10 times. In addition, to do mindful breathing and repeat a mantra such as “Peace be still.” If you find yourself unable to shift on your own turn to a trusted friend or counselor who will not judge you.
The blessing that occurs for many people, when they heal their fears is that you will be intuitively guided to the best step to follow. In my client’s case she felt a need to physically dress-up for the telephone interview in complete business attire. This action gave her the subtle shift to handle the call with an added layer of confidence and clarity, and she moved into the next stage in the interview process.
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Monday, March 29th, 2010
We are connected to each other through life. Quantum physics suggests that the visible and invisible boundaries of our physical world play a significant role in the outcomes of our destiny. The recent death of a Chicago teen in a biking trip has connected with the cosmic thread interwoven into the stream of collective consciousness that mixes love with pain.
Faith Dremmer, 17 was tragically struck down while on a bike trip with two friends on a rural road in southern Illinois. The two other girls, Kaia Tammen and Julia Baird were seriously injured and remain hospitalized.
The story of Faith’s life has unfolded into a lesson which many people will find themselves reconnecting with…and that is to love deeply when we are inspired to do so.
Her mother, Michelle Dremmer fell in love with Faith through a photo, even before traveling all the way to China to adopt her. The picture, was provided by another woman who had just returned from adopting her own daughter in China. The woman told Michelle, “of being concerned about the little 2-year-old girl left behind in the orphanage.”
Faith’s life as a soon-to-be graduating senior at University of Chicago Laboratory School, her love for her violin, an enthusiastic biker, coupled with countless friendships and a special closeness with her mother, opens our lives to the fragile balance that we experience everyday. The lavish love that Michelle draped around her daughter provided for the spectacular backdrop to a young life that ended way too early.
The service at Temple Sholom of Chicago provided the canvas for mixing crisis as well as joy to the individuals, families and communities of people who gathered to honor Faith Dremmer. Michelle Dremmer’s intuitive insight to adopt Faith as a toddler allowed this sacred path to unfold for not only herself, but the world to see and admire, and gain insight.
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