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What Happens When Others Ignore Our Intuitive Signs?

Have you ever looked in a person’s eyes and knew immediately that something was wrong? Saying what you sense can be risky because you never know how the other person will take the information. And what happens if you are so convinced that your intuition is correct that you take it a step further and share your concerns and the individual flicks it off like a piece of lint? And you make an even greater effort and address your concerns with the person’s boss, only to have your insight ignored again?

It’s easy for me to rely on my own intuition to help guide my life, because that is what I do in my work. But getting a person who is not a trusted friend or a client to listen is often a lot harder. And there’s the other issue of me being morally committed to not violating another person’s privacy and giving them information without being asked.

My internal struggle with knowing when to say something led to me writing this blog today.  It involved a carpenter who was working on a big project in our building.  The difficulty of job was due in part  because “Bill”  had to interact with one female in our cooperative who has a DNA for control.   He was a friendly guy, and unfortunately made the mistake of giving his cell phone number to the female bully and she called him all hours of the day and night.  He did not establish boundaries and tell her to stop or simply decide to keep his cell phone turned off when he went home.  Bill’s reactions to her mirrored those of others in our cooperative who would do anything rather than go up against the female bully. I faced the same dilemma myself, after serving for 3 years on the Board, and made the decision to resign when we got into a shouting match over the phone and I decided to listen when my intuition it told me, “she is not worth it.”

One particular day I looked “Bill” in the eye and saw what I sensed as a feeling of hopelessness. The feeling hit me so hard I took the time to ask him if everything was okay and if he was getting enough rest. Bill pushed off my comment and gave me a fake smile to back up that “everything was okay.” When I got to work, the feeling I had about Bill kept nagging me and I decided to call his boss and suggest that perhaps his worker needed some time off. I mentioned the strong personality he was dealing with and my sense of what was present in Bill’s eyes.

The owner on the company is a good man, but he had also fallen into the same stressed out camp of allowing the female bully to bully him. I guess it is easy to understand why my suggestion fell on deaf ears. As the Board President at the time when the project began, I specifically warned the owner about the female bully, but he did not heed my advice to keep her at arms length.

A week or so later, Bill, the carpenter quit.  It turned out he was a recovering alcoholic and had relapsed. All this happened well over a year ago, but it all came flooding back when the owner of the construction company sent me a text telling me that Bill had died of alcoholism.

As you can imagine the owner of the company is in pain over all this. And even though he is not a client, I gave him the following spiritual treatment to help him though this period:

1. Each day say the Serenity Prayer as many times as possible.
2. While driving when feelings of anxiety and guilt come up say the Lord’s Prayer out loud at least ten times.
3. Remember funny stories about Bill and pray for his family and children.
4. Reach out to the family on a consistent basis and do random acts of kindness on a regular basis.

The news of Bill’s death affected me to deeply, I had to do my own treatment because there is still the nagging feeling inside that I could have done more to help.

In hindsight, I realize how easy it was for me to recognize the warning signs in Bill’s eyes because alcoholism has played a role in two critical male relationships in my life. First, my Dad was an alcoholic during my teenage years. This was the over 30 years ago, and people did not talk about alcoholism like they do today. My mother’s way of handling it was to tell us that nothing was wrong. This experience so affected me that I only realized the full impact it had on my life, when I had to come to gripes with the fact that my first marriage was to an alcoholic.

My dad eventually stopped drinking and became the kind of father who supported us all and did everything he could to help others. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for my first husband, we divorced and he has never been able to beat this dreadful disease.

Today the old hurts came flooding back this morning over young man I knew only briefly who died. And I would be remiss if I did not mention, I do have resentment in my heart over the female bully in my building who I believe played a part in pushing him over the edge.  The owner of the company and I agreed that we would not share the news of Bill’s death with her. I have watched her long enough and she has no capacity for guilt so telling her would not change anything.  And I should add most likely she was not the only factor in causing Bill’s relapse.  As a recovering alcoholic, there is no telling the other issues he was facing.

As part of the human experience, we owe it to each other to attempt to say discuss our concerns with people we care about.  Yes, it is risky and not everyone will admit to you that they are in trouble. But saying nothing will hurt much worse if something occurs and you find yourself regretting over not having taken the chance to express what you sense.


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Intuitively Sense the Emotion of Hope

The emotion of hope is more powerful than fear. Harnessing the ability to create this feeling in our minds, hearts and spirits is easy. Here are a few simple steps to radiate an overwhelming sense of hope each day:
1. Sensing intuitively each morning that your day is going to be constant flow of perfect, health, happiness and joy.
2. Surrounding yourself with people who are happy and radiate a sense of hope in everything they do.
3. Releasing the past.
4. Sending love to all your cells, systems and organs before you get out of the bed.
5. Affirming that the decisions you make are wise and well-thought out.

Read more on how to harness this powerful emotion:  http://www.staythirstymedia.com/201604-092/html/201604-franklin-oprah.html


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Are We Meditating Less Because of Social Media?

We live in a world of social media frenzy. One of the major drawbacks to our constant being connected to technology is we deprive ourselves of the inherent clues our intuition provides us.  So, how do we get off of the technology treadmill of life and re-charge our inner wisdom?

The average person has five social media accounts and spends around 1 hour and 40 minutes browsing these networks every day, accounting for 28 percent of the total time spent on the internet.  Yet, many of us have a hard time finding a few minutes to meditate or quiet our minds.

Our internet usage directly even cuts into the time many of us normally would be sleeping.  Today about 20% of Americans report they sleep less than 6 hours a night, and the number of people who say they sleep 8 hours has also decreased. Scientists have confirmed that when we are tired this deprives our brains of the subtle signs that help us guide and direct our lives.

Even if we fall short on getting a full night’s sleep, we can renew, refresh and rejuvenate our mind when we allow ourselves rest time—even if it is only for 10 minutes. Scientists have proven that quieting our minds for brief intervals—known as meditation or mindfulness, is like charging our internal battery.

Once you determine the time that you want to allow rest time, set the timer on your smartphone and put it on silent so that it does not disturb you until your time is up.

Here are the steps for creating a short break to relax your mind:
1. Take 6 deep breaths and set a firm intention to be peaceful.
2. If you notice your mind continuing on a busy stream of thoughts do not judge yourself, instead, gently remind yourself you have set this time for relaxing your mind and will think about those things later.
3. Introduce a word or mantra to help you relax into silencing your mind such as: Peace, Love, God and Joy.
4. When your alarm goes off take a moment to be grateful for the time you have given to take care of yourself.
5. Commit to feeling joy for the rest of your day.

The benefits of resting after working hard were never clearer to me these last two years while writing my first book. There were times in which my mind was so active that I was sleeping sometimes only3-4 hours a night. Afternoons were always the hardest time for me to maintain my mental sharpness, so I started to plan 10-minute rest periods for myself each day. I saw positive effects as soon as I started taking short meditation breaks each day; not only was I more alert, but it was easier for my mind to provide creative insights that I needed to finish my book.

The results I found in taking short rest breaks each day are the same underlying reason why businesses today are implementing meditation and mindfulness practices for their employees. Industry giants such as Google, Aetna, Target, Apple, Nike, General Mills, Goldman Sachs, Proctor & Gamble, AOL, and The Huffington Post, have all created programs to help their workers stay healthy.

These programs include non-conventional classes such as yoga, mindfulness,
Tai Chi, massage, as well as ongoing lectures by professionals on health and wellness.

We all have the ability to develop our own self-care program by setting aside time each day to allow our minds to rest and be peaceful. Making this commitment will go a long way to help us receive the insight, wisdom and hunches that is always available from our intuition.


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Emotion of Fear Blocks Intuition

Fear is the number one reason why our intuition becomes blocked. We live in a predominately left brain world which makes turning to your inner knowing scary. When we get fearful our ability to listen to our inner voice can prevent you from knowing the best option, choice or decision to make. In order to be in the right frame of mind to flow through fearful moments here are three crucial steps to take:

1. Breathe deeply. The first thing that happens when we get nervous or panicky is we start to breathe quickly. It is very easy to get hyperventilated. Becoming aware of your breathe is a big way to connect with your intuition. Research indicates as little as two to three minutes or conscious breathing has a very calming effect.

2. Write down each and every idea that comes to you. As soon as we tell another person what we want to do nine times out of ten that will tell you all the reasons why it cannot be done. We stimulate our minds when we allow our thoughts to flow without judgment. Allowing your imagination to flow is a great way to consider what you would do if money were no option or if you are able to move past your own self imposed barrier…fear!

3. Call your own shots. People who are able to dream about various options for their life are better able to produce creative options when life throw them a curve ball. By allowing yourself to run through various options you are able to become comfortable with what feels right or wrong for you.

When we are fearful we are often afraid of the unknown. People are complex in many ways. When you need to get to the bottom of something it is important that you take quiet time with yourself. By opening up to your intuition it expands and accelerates the infinite possibilities to you in life.


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Power of Broke Lauds Following an Intuitive Hunch

Our ability to achieve business success is directly related to our willingness to following our intuition & taking risks.  This is the message in Daymond John’s new book, Power of Broke: How Empty Pockets, a Tight Budget, and a Hunger for Success Can Become Your Greatest Competitive Advantage

Many people know John as the savvy entrepreneur who started FUBU with a $40 budget and expanded it into a six billion dollar power brand. His new book is packed with savvy, down-to-earth stories of many people just like him, who started their businesses by trusting their gut in the decisions they made.

Let’s face it not everyone is comfortable with people trusting in their intuition enough to take action. John’s tells us it is this willingness to risk everything that makes the difference between the people who achieve great success and those who wallow in self-pity.

The multimillionaire entrepreneur gives us a slice of success in the stories of many people you will recognize from Shark Tank. The people he describes in their heartfelt stories makes the reader feel enpowered and energized.

The biggest key to trusting your gut says John is the power of consistency. Once we learn to rely on our intuition it become like clockwork.  The author gives detailed action steps that beginning and experienced business owners can do to grow and expand their companies.

If you are trying to decide your next step or need an injection of energy to propel you forward in achieving your dreams check out Johnson’s book asap.

http://daymondjohn.com/

Daymond John's book

Daymond John’s book


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Flexibility Strengthens Your Intuition

Being open to new ideas and concepts for many of us can be challenging. Our minds are so cluttered with our experiences from the past that it becomes difficult to pay attention and let alone act on our intuition. Unfortunately, the more we remain stuck in the old issues that are bothering us, the less likely we are to be aware whenever an intuitive awareness presents that we need to pay attention to and act on.

It might surprise you to know that the more mentally, emotionally, and physically flexible we are it is easier to for us to be more aware of our inner wisdom. Author Bob Cooley in his book The Genius of Flexibility: The Smart Way to Stretch and Strengthen Your Body, details how our ability to stretch our bodies actually helps us to receive what the author describes as spiritual upgrades to our emotional, mental and physical bodies.

Cooley’s book explains that stretching teaches you that your body and your life reflect each other.  The author states by stretching you will find yourself making better choices, showing greater integrity and enjoying the things that are good for you.

This isn’t surprising since scientists tell us that our feelings play a big part on our being able to fully recognize and take action on what our intuition is directing us to do. The more we hold onto the past, the less likely we are to recognize when our inner awareness is sending us a signal on something we need to know.

Your life affects your energy. Your clarity affects your mindset and more importantly alerting you to areas of concern, long before our rational mind kicks in. Developing the unshakable ability to know what is right in your life is not like instant coffee, it happens through times when we stretch ourselves and follow our intuition even when rational thinking may tell us a different path to take.

Just as when we do physical stretches to align our bodies, we also must increase the flexibility of our spiritual awareness by turning and trusting our intuition to help us guide and direct us to live the highest version of our lives.


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Use Your Intuition to Alert You to the Emotion of Anger

Emotions flow through us like water. Until we consciously become aware of our feelings it is easy to let them get out-of-control. The most damaging emotion is anger. The best way to become aware of this disruptive energy is to develop the practice of constantly observing your emotions. Taking this action is one of the most powerful steps we can do to consciously create what we want in our lives.

Our feelings are all around us and are difficult to control, but gaining this ability has the power to transform and accelerate healing in all areas of your life. In my work as an Intuitive Counselor and Coach, my clients suffer from anger over everything from relationships breakups, mistreatment by their parents to not having achieved their potential. Regardless of the experience, the lesson is always the same, when we recognize our internal boiling point, we have the ability to control the outcome.

When we practice being intuitively aware of our feelings we are collecting the data that is needed to change any circumstance we face in our lives. This capacity is vital to understanding our choices, options and alternatives to achieving a prosperous, healthy and long life.

Here’s an excerpt from my book, Intuition:  The Hidden Asset Everyone Should Learn to Use:

We must approach life like a chest game, and learn to play each step carefully and consciously before making a move.  While we may never completely vanquish the emotion of anger from our life experience, we can definitely control how much it affects us and our reactions to others.  Recognizing our own internal warnings signs that our emotions are getting out of control is critical.
Each of us has the capacity to recognize the emotion of anger and to control it. If you observe yourself being angry and allow yourself to step back intuitively, this will give you the power to make a different choice.  We always a choice even if it is to adjust ourselves to a bad situation.  Claiming this power is will help us to fully embrace our God-given gift of intuition.

 


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Finding the Courage to Trust Your Intuition and Take Action

It takes courage to trust and take action on our intuitive hunches. One of underlying reasons why we do not follow our inner guidance is often because we do not want to risk making a mistake.

Most of us would rather be safe than to change, even when we know our choice is no longer working for us. It is only when we make the time to carefully examine our lives that many of us finally admit that our misfortunes in life are often due to us ignoring or refusing to act on what we felt in our hearts was the right thing to do.

Part of the challenge in taking action on what our intuition alerts us to do is because we do not know how to decipher the invisible signals it sends us. In the book Thrive: The Third Metric to Defining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder by Arianna Huffington, Psychologists Martin Seligman and Michael Kahana describe intuition-based decision making as:
(a) Rapid
(b) Not conscious
(c) Used for decisions involving multiple dimensions
(d) Based on vast stores of prior experiences
(e) Characteristic of experts
(f) Not easily or accurately articulated afterwards
(g) Often made with high confidence

Since intuition is hard to define, it is easy for us brush our feelings aside because we do not have the courage to stand up for something that we cannot rationalize to another person. Two of the common factors which play a part in our inability to trust our inner knowing are, we often refuse to take action because we do not want to risk hurting or disagreeing with someone, and daring to be different from the group or community that we belong to.

Truth be told, most of us are much more comfortable with following than leading. Creative thinkers are rare. It is ironic that we actually increase our chances for success when we open our minds to our intuition.

If we are really honest with ourselves, it is often hard for us to admit to others that our gut is the primary factor in our decision making process. We live in a world that relies on tables, charts and other hard data as the underlying factor for most of the choices we make. Standing firm and believing in your feelings despite what others want to do takes courage. We express our inner strength whenever we speak our truth regardless of what anyone else is doing.

What makes humans unique is the right we have to make our own choices. Many of us are extremely frustrated that things are not going right in our lives, yet we do not have the courage to act and make the changes needed for things to be different. If we are really honest with ourselves, most of us have stayed too long in jobs, relationships, and even places that we live, simply because we do not have the courage to change.

Our intuitive abilities are always there to help guide us by steering us in the right direction by picking up on intricate details that our conscious minds may not notice. The key in being willing to trust our instincts is based primarily on the inner relationship we have developed with ourselves.

Strengthening our intuition muscle begins with self-discovery. This does not happen while we are talking on our iphone, listening to music and playing a video game all at the same time. Moment of self-reflection happen when we consciously choose to turn off the external noise and to become silent.

It is during moments of silence, or meditation that we learn to be comfortable in knowing ourselves–and begin to love the good and not-so-good aspects of who we are. It is through our self-love that we learn to pay attention and become more comfortable with acting on our inner nudges and hunches. When we ignore our inner knowing it retreats from us.

Everyday we are surrounded by opportunities to act on the guidance and direction we receive from our intuition. The better we know ourselves, it is easier to become totally comfortable in trusting our instincts and feelings. Having the courage to take action on your intuitive hunches is like flexing an invisible muscles everyday; making it stronger and even more precise.


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Intuition Expands When We Take Short Breaks Each Day

We live in a world of overwork, burnout, worry, stress and exhaustion. One of the major drawbacks to our constant state of busyness is we deprive ourselves of the inherent clues our intuition provides us to live happier and more productive lives. So, how do we get off of the treadmill of life and re-charge our inner wisdom?

It is common knowledge that many of us are overly stressed leading us to be tired. Today about 20% of Americans report they sleep less than 6 hours a night, and the number of people who say they sleep 8 hours has also decreased. Scientists have confirmed that when we are tired this deprives our brains of the subtle signs that help us guide and direct our lives.

Even if we fall short on getting a full night’s sleep, we can renew, refresh and rejuvenate our mind when we allow ourselves rest time—even if it is only for 10 minutes. Scientists have proven that quieting our minds for brief intervals—known as meditation or mindfulness, is like charging our internal battery.

Once you determine the time that you want to allow rest time, set the timer on your smartphone and put it on silent so that it does not disturb you until your time is up.

Here are the steps for creating a short break to relax your mind:
1. Take 6 deep breaths and set a firm intention to be peaceful.
2. If you notice your mind continuing on a busy stream of thoughts do not judge yourself, instead, gently remind yourself you have set this time for relaxing your mind and will think about those things later.
3. Introduce a word or mantra to help you relax into silencing your mind such as: Peace, Love, God and Joy.
4. When your alarm goes off take a moment to be grateful for the time you have given to take care of yourself.
5. Commit to feeling joy for the rest of your day.

The benefits of resting after working hard were never clearer to me these last two years while writing my first book. There were times in which my mind was so active that I was sleeping sometimes only3-4 hours a night. Afternoons were always the hardest time for me to maintain my mental sharpness, so I started to plan 10-minute rest periods for myself each day. I saw positive effects as soon as I started taking short meditation breaks each day; not only was I more alert, but it was easier for my mind to provide creative insights that I needed to finish my book.

The results I found in taking short rest breaks each day are the same underlying reason why businesses today are implementing meditation and mindfulness practices for their employees. Industry giants such as Google, Aetna, Target, Apple, Nike, General Mills, Goldman Sachs, Proctor & Gamble, AOL, and The Huffington Post, have all created programs to help their workers stay healthy.

These programs include non-conventional classes such as yoga, mindfulness,
Tai Chi, massage, as well as ongoing lectures by professionals on health and wellness.

We all have the ability to develop our own self-care program by setting aside time each day to allow our minds to rest and be peaceful. Making this commitment will go a long way to help us receive the insight, wisdom and hunches that is always available from our intuition.


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Intuition Influenced by Friendships We Keep

People who want to sharpen their intuitive abilities need to hang out with individuals who value this skill and are supportive. Doing so leaves each party free to explore their differences and actually increases the influence of inner knowing. Research shows that when you spend time with people who respect and believe in intuition your gut instinct gets stronger!

My advice for those who wish to develop their intuitive muscle is to allow for variety in your life. Relax your mind through meditation and allow yourself to daydream about what you want to create in your life. Limit time with inflexible or rigid people who are judgmental about your hunches. When you start to pay attention to the flow of your life without censoring, editing or sorting out experiences according to what we think they ought to be or what we are told is acceptable, it allows us the freedom to explore our inner feelings.

Developing your intuition is innate and natural and often inspired by the people we connect with in our daily lives. Allowing yourself to freely express your interest and the positive feedback you receive are two of the most critical factors in expanding your senses.

When you connect with people who are judgmental about your intuition this often packs an emotional wallop which stops you from sensing things around you. The emotional significance of being with people who support your need to explore the spiritual side of life allows for an expansive view of things in life.

Living intuitively allows for you to:
1. Expand your other senses.
2. Operate from the sense of seeing everything as “living in perfection.”
3. Set aside ego-based desires and preferences and let life flow and unfold on its own.

By living intuitively you will probably discover that the universe will meet you more than halfway. Sharpening this skill may lead to a more joyful, prosperous and healthy life.


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