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The Most Damaging Human Emotions

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Everything that you are destined to become comes from your energy. An energy field that is clouded with anger, resentment, fear and guilt blocks wellness in the body.

In my work as an Intuitive Counselor, I see people facing serious health problems who have not been able to heal past hurts from their mind and spirit. The solution for many of them is the wonderful and frequently misunderstood practice of forgiveness.

One of the most surprisingly effective tools I refer to my clients is a book and website entitled Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping. The website features a worksheet that  allows you to fully describe the emotional hurt which is present in your life. Removing that pain opens the doorway for your body to maintain perfect health.

Many clients start with one conflict or issue that has not been resolved and will move on to include past hurts that still generates pain or upset in their life.

One female client no sooner did a worksheet surrounding a year old conflict with a girlfriend, when the person called a week later. Working through her anger before the friend’s call was significant, because the other individual was still hurt and upset. My client was all smiles as she described her ability to transcend the experience and to offer peace and understanding about her friend’s held emotion without judgment.

The power of forgiveness is often overlooked in the health problems that are present in a person’s body. I’d like to look at what forgiveness is, as well as what it is not:

1.  Forgiveness is not pardoning unacceptable behavior. If someone has hurt you repeatedly, then you are not expected to condone their actions.

2.  Forgiveness is not putting a smiley face on something that still hurts. To work at this level you must be willing to accept and desire freedom from the pain attached to the situation.

3.  Forgiveness does not require you to be friends with someone who has hurt you.

4.  Forgiveness is not an excuse for feeling superior to the person you have forgiven.

5.  Forgiveness is not an opportunity to get someone else to change.

6.  Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person, it’s for you and only you.

Skyrocketing medical costs and the risk of disease are two reasons to examine the emotional hurts you may be holding onto. When we clean up the emotional garbage in our lives it frees us from pain that will often lead to the manifestation of disease.

If you or someone you know is in need of emotional healing, contact me at http://www.shereefranklin.com to set up a consultation.


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Unblocking Inner Wisdom

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There are many things that we clutter our minds with that diminish our ability to connect with our intuition. One of the biggest challenges in unblocking our inner wisdom is when we practice sympathy, and not empathy, when it comes to other people’s problems.

The difference between empathy and sympathy has a big impact on everything from our wellness to our ability to manifest our desires.

Oftentimes, we get into sympathy with people that we love and before you know it, you become intricately involved in their problems to the extent where you end up worrying about their issues.

When we are empathetic, it is possible to step back and see the life journey another person is facing without getting so involved. You can pray for others, offer your insights and suggestions, but it is critically important that each of us knows how to separate ourselves from another’s life experience.

This lesson was revealed to me in a big way when a female client came in to see me about a year after her mother had been diagnosed with breast cancer. As with all people who allow me to participate in their life journey, I had prayed for her along the way. Even though we had not seen each other since our initial visit, it took me only a couple of minutes to sense that the life force of the mother had passed and that while expressing my condolences I was taken by surprise to sense that the young 40-year-old woman seated in front of me was now ill.

When I questioned her on this she told me without hesitation that “she now had breast cancer.” Before even processing the information deeply I asked her simply, “What had you been thinking when your mother was ill?” She told me she, “Kept wishing it was her.”

We must be careful on this life journey to allow others to experience their challenges without allowing ourselves to take in another person’s burdens. Each of us is meant to walk this life’s journey and grow and evolve in our own life challenges. Taking on another’s life experience does not allow us to expand our consciousness.


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Forgiving Yourself

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Do you know who the most important person many of us need to forgive? It’s YOU. All too often we play the blame game and continuously bombard our minds and spirit with the regrets, mistakes, and disappointments in our lives.

Our thoughts, feelings, and emotions are too important to ignore and must be carefully monitored in order to help navigate and direct our path to wellness, success, and happiness. Never was this lesson explained to me more clearly than from a teenager.

The student and I connected when she interviewed as part of my responsibility chairing the Chicago Minority Business Development Council Scholarship Committee.

She was a 17-year-old Asian immigrant who was one of the highest ranking students in a large inner-city school in Chicago. Kim, (not her name) had come to the United States around the age of six or seven and spoke only Chinese. As an only child, her parents emphasized the importance of achieving an American education and she spent many hours studying.

The hard work and dedication paid off and she was named Valedictorian her senior year. At the same time, the student’s family learned that her maternal grandfather was dying in China. They made the commitment to travel home for two weeks to see him in his final days.

When Kim informed the school’s principal of her upcoming absence, she learned that due to the small point difference between herself and the other top ranked students, it would be next to impossible for her to maintain the coveted Number One spot. Looking at the young girl across the table from me, I could still sense the deep hurt of this experience.

She told of having spoken with Grandfather about this injustice and he asked her a critical question, “If you were given a choice between a large stick of gold and a vessel that contained time, which would you choose? Kim said, “Of course, I would take the gold.” He told her the vessel of time is much important because that you can never replace.”

After the funeral service, Kim returned to school and hid the deep hurt inside over losing the top spot, by overeating in her home alone each day. After gaining almost 30 pounds in a few months Kim’s self-esteem plummeted even more. Her parents spent long hours working in low wage jobs and didn’t notice their daughter’s despair.

Later, taking a college-level Psychology class, Kim continued her practice of reading the entire textbook in the first week. She then met with the teacher and told her of her own diagnosis of having an eating disorder. Kim said, “My parents cannot afford to put me in therapy. I must work to change myself.” The two devised a strategy in which Kim would get a job after school doing something that she really loved: working in the library. And she was to commit to asking one person to do something with her each week.

When I asked her what she learned from this experience, Kim explained, “I had to make up with myself and stop being angry about everything I thought I had done wrong.” My eyes filled with tears as I listened to this life lesson coming from this young teenage girl seated across from me.

How many of us don’t understand the vital significance of practicing self-forgiveness? We often talk to ourselves much worse than we would allow anyone else to. Only through truly listening to our inner dialogue can we become aware of what we are saying to ourselves.

Kim was on route to graduating in the top ten of her class. When she left the room, everyone agreed we found our scholarship award winner.

©2008 Sheree Franklin. Sheree is a life coach and entrepreneur who specializes in intuitive coaching. Sign up for Sheree’s bi-monthly tips on intuition and relationships at
http://www.shereefranklin.com


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